Why "Situationships" Should Be a Thing Of The Past
What’s it called when you don’t want to romantically claim someone as your own, but don’t want anyone else to have them either? Mental illness.
It’s about time we acknowledge just how ridiculous and childish “situationships” are. For those who aren’t familiar with the term, a situationship is a complicated romantic involvement. Urban dictionary defines it as “a relationship that has no label on it..like a friendship but more than a friendship but not quite a relationship.” Confused yet?
It’s basically when two people take part in all the relationship-like activities while dating, just without the title or commitment of an actual relationship. Some go on numerous dates and end up meeting the families while others choose to keep it strictly physical, and engage intimately; either way, it’s a complicated situation filled with unwritten rules and confusion. We should all do ourselves a favor and grow up.
What is the point of a situationship anyway? Why would any of us willingly pursue such confusion in the first place?
It’s not like there are any concrete rules to abide by when you’re in a situationship. You can’t technically cheat and you’re not technically committed but your actions say otherwise which brings greater confusion. You’re expected to act as a girlfriend or boyfriend, without the actual title of being one, and people realistically believe that this will have a positive outcome in the long run?
More than likely one of the two parties involved, ultimately catches feelings, and the “no strings attached” agreement suddenly becomes obsolete. Slowly, more and more disagreements commence, and before you know it, you’re asking the dreaded “what are we?” question, many millennials seem to fear. But all in all you’re expected to keep your cool as best as you can, because whatever emotions you are feeling, you don’t have valid reason to, because “technically”, you’re both still single.
What ever happened to just being honest and open in relationships? Is that not a thing anymore? If you want to casually date, then say and do just that. Or if you are only looking for a serious long-term relationship do that instead. Why must you involve yourself with a bunch of unwritten rules and unnecessary uncertainty only to build more confusion to your already confusing dating life.
What I believe is wrong with situationships is this idea that you are suppose to abide by some imaginary code out of respect for the other person, when there is no real commitment to respect in the first place. It’s not like you have vows, or a relationship title to reference back to. Instead, you have an “understanding” that doesn’t need to be explained to the outside world.(When in all honesty you could use a brief explanation yourself.)
There’s no stability in situationships, there’s no point of reference for you both to be on the same page romantically, therefore there’s no point in adding more unnecessary confusion to your life.
Do yourself a favor, and stay away from situationships. It’s one thing if you’re young, immature and have no idea what life or love is even about, but if you are mature enough to know what you want, and how you want it, why settle? Situationships should be a thing of the past, trust me, it’ll save you a lot of time, energy and sanity.